Do you have a skeleton in the cupboard? I do

by Yakovenko Andrey 

If we do ask anybody whether they have their skeleton in the cupboard, we won`t get a simple answer. In the way that people expound and comprehend this expression they`re going to tell you about it. Is such “skeleton” a typical unpleasant thing that had happened to us, the skills we can`t execute or just an original fears? Let`s suppose: a man who doesn`t have a hand for something won`t admit it, would he? He`s better to say: “I`m not competent in the present matter”, than just: “I can`t carry it out”. Likewise, a “skeleton” in the cupboard is paraphrased negative experience of us.

Undoubtedly, each of us has an experience that we take as the bad one or even as the shame. I have some too. And a talk about it needs narrator to be ready to disembosom. The more elder people become, the more “skeletons” they aquire. What are these bad experiences? For some it`s just their infelicitous remarks, for others it`s already an abortive, wrong actions or, moreover, “life-steps”.

I guess I`m lucky to have an experience of the first (easy) stage: till now I had a few cases of “misexpressing” my opinion, a mistaken commentaries as to some positions. Later I was to understand I had made a mistake in my own assumption. At times a guesswork is proved in practice, but it may be also refuted. It`s not even a shame or disgrace for me at all, but a thing that makes a feeling of guilt or etc. Needless to say, such feeling gives a fraction of discomfort. Wisdom comes with time. And with time only you realize that you were able to do/to say something in differ way.

I realized: study your faults.