achieve a lot of different goals. Not everyone even at the age of 40 has so many achievements. His parents were proud of their son, but they never said that. It was believed that in such a way they would destroy his motivation to go forward and develop. Mother said that they did not need to praise their children, because it always hurts them. Most likely, she was wrong, but what's the difference? This situation has taken place. Moreover, he was the only child in the family. And the mother was afraid to educate and bring up the egoist. This situation often happens in families where there is only one child. In this case, you do not argue with her.
From the first grade, Harry was an excellent student. He participated and won almost every school competition. He knew physics, mathematics, history, biology ... He entered university without any problems: in the best university of the country, in the best faculty of the country. At school teachers often praised him and said pleasant words. At first he liked it, but then he began to understand. They get money for his achievement. They use him. It slightly reduced his motivation. But it did not disappear. Motivation exists for the rich and successful. They can sit at home al the day and don`t worry about money. If you are ordinary person, you must work or study hard. And then you can achieve your goals and make your dreams come true. If you want to live well, you do not need motivation. If you do not want it, then the motivation will not help.
But we live in society and therefore we often need the praise from other people. A person that is more intelligent, needs to be converted only from close people. This is logical. That's why Harry began to shut himself in. He did not like himself He believed that nobody loved him. He had almost no friends, because he spent all his time studying and reading books. He hated to look in the mirror, because he saw his reflection. He saw the scattering of acne on his face and his lowered, deep-seated eyes. Especially he did not like himself naked. Sitting lifestyle reminded itself too often. But Harry was extremely strong. A weak man would look at himself in the mirror and would begin to complain about his parents, God, humanity, and ecology. But such a person would not do anything to make the situation change. And Harry did. He did too much. He did not see anything good in himself and wanted to change.
At age 25 he looked like a guy from the cover of the magazine. All girls wanted to be with him. Harry worked as a lawyer in a popular law firm and earned a lot of money. At his age, he could provide a family. But he had only parents, which could take care of themselves without his help and money. He did not pay attention to the girls, because he believed that he was not cool for them. He was a fool. Sometimes he talked to them, but his uncertainty pushed them away. Therefore, he continued to work. He worked and did not see the result.
Low self-esteem destroys life.
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